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Hey mama! If you’re holding so much hope in one hand and so much heartbreak in the other… I see you. I read a post recently where a mom said her 19-year-old had made huge strides one week, only to spiral the next. I know that moment. I’ve lived that moment. But what if it’s not a step back? What if it’s just a side step ? Because progress with our kids, especially when they’re neurodivergent, doesn’t look like a staircase. It looks like a mountain. 🔄 The Reframe: Progress Isn’t Linear We’ve been fed the idea that growth should be clean, straight, and predictable. Two steps forward, one step back. But when you're parenting a neurodivergent teen or young adult, it's not a straight line. It's a winding climb up a foggy mountain. There are plateaus. Ledges. Switchbacks. There are days you stop and catch your breath, and moments you have to  veer off to get better footing. And what looks like immaturity or poor choices? That might actually be right on time developmentally. Not by age, but by where their nervous system and executive function are in that moment. 💬 From “That Kid” to Mentor: My Story I get these kids. Because I was  that kid. Sensitive. Reactive. Hyper-aware. I masked. I overcompensated. I struggled. I spent my teen years feeling like a disappointment, and later, as a mom, I felt like I was drowning again. I’ve punished when I should’ve paused. I’ve walked away in overwhelm when I wanted connection. I’ve cried the same tears I now sit beside other moms in. And because of all of that, I get to offer something powerful: Not perfection but presence. Not fixing but seeing. 🏔 Parenting the Mountain If it feels like your child is self-sabotaging, or undoing all their hard work take a breath. Don’t panic. Get curious. Ask yourself: What’s the gap here? Are they overwhelmed? Is this a way of coping? Or a call for connection? When we pause and investigate, instead of punishing or panicking, we create emotional safety.And that’s where real  growth begins. 👣 Real-Life Example: The Burned-Out 18-Year-Old A mom I work with watched her son start thriving: managing his schedule, taking meds, showing up for class. Then one week it all crashed. Missed classes. Ignored messages. Zero motivation. Her fear said: “We’ve lost everything.”But when we paused, the truth was clear: he was maxed out. He wasn’t lazy he was burned out  from masking competence he hadn’t fully developed. Instead of pulling away, she leaned in: She asked, “What’s feeling heavy right now?” She broke down tasks into “Must-do” and “Can-wait.” And she reminded him: “I don’t love you for what you accomplish. I love you because you’re you.” That reset everything. 🛠 Tangible Tools for Moms on the Trail 1. Name the Mountain. When things feel chaotic, pause and ask: “Am I expecting a straight path when their brain needs a winding one?” 2. Use the Switchback Strategy. When they falter: Try walking or driving side-by-side to invite connection Say: “Looks like we need to re-chart the trail what do you need from me right now?” 3. Model Calm on the Ledge. Instead of shouting up the trail, sit beside them: “This looks hard. I’m not going anywhere. We’ll figure it out together.” Your calm tells their nervous system, “We’re safe.” 💭 Mindset Shift: Progress Is Layered, Not Linear Not every win will show up on paper. Sometimes progress is in the pause. In the breath you didn’t used to take. In the softer voice you use when you want to scream. In the moment you see your child, not just their behavior. That’s real change.That’s the mountain. 🎯 Final Thoughts If you’re on the trail and it’s messy, foggy, or exhausting you’re not alone. And you’re not going backward. This work is hard. But you’re climbing. Special Gift: I’m offering a 20% tuition discount  on my full course Path to Empowered Parenting  now through May 31  for Mother’s Day. Admission is application only. Kindly schedule a brief chat to find out if this is the program for you! https://calendly.com/taratrievel/chat-with-tara Bring your messy heart and I’ll bring the tools. We’re in this together.

Why Moms of Autistic Kids Feel Stuck It’s not just the daily chaos. It’s the invisible load, the sleepless nights, endless decisions, appointments, advocacy, and the feeling that no matter how much you give, it’s never enough. It’s like living in survival mode... on repeat. Why Doing More Isn’t Working We’ve been told that if we just keep trying, pushing, and fixing eventually things will get better, but that mindset is exactly what keeps so many moms stuck. I know, because I lived it. I spent years parenting the way others told me to using every strategy, intervention, and checklist I could get my hands on. I wanted to do everything “right.”But the truth was, none of it felt aligned with me. And when things didn’t improve, I turned that pain inward. I truly believed I was a bad mom. I carried guilt so deep it began to isolate me from everyone around me. Eventually, it all caught up with me mentally, emotionally, and in every relationship I had.And when I began raising my grandson, I knew I couldn’t keep parenting from that place. That’s when I started rebuilding from within. I began listening to myself. Calming my nervous system. Reconnecting with who I was beneath all the fear, guilt, and noise.That shift to presence, peace, and authenticity completely transformed the way I parent. And it’s what I now teach inside Path to Empowered Parenting . The Shift that Changes Everything The truth is: You don’t need to fix your child to feel better. You need to rebuild your relationship with yourself. That’s what I teach inside Path to Empowered Parenting a step-by-step journey to help you regulate, reconnect, and reclaim peace. A Simple Practice to Start Now Pause. Name the feeling. (“I feel exhausted,” “I feel afraid,” “I feel stuck.”) Breathe into it. Just for 30 seconds. Ask: What would support  look like right now? Not a solution, just what YOU need right now. If you're nodding along, it’s time to stop surviving and start rising.Explore the course that meets you where you are and helps you reconnect to your power: 👉 Learn More

You know that moment — when your teen slams the door, shuts down, or lashes out with words that feel like daggers? It used to send me spiraling. I’d react. Lecture. Sometimes cry.But none of it worked.What finally did? Learning how to regulate myself first, so I could teach my teen, not through words, but by example. The Truth About Teen Defiance If your teen is neurodivergent, what looks like “defiance” is often a survival response. They’re overwhelmed. Their system is flooded. And yet the world expects them to stay calm, comply, perform. It’s unrealistic. And it's setting both of you up to fail. What I Used to Do (That Backfired) I thought parenting meant solving problems in real time.So when my teen got angry, I’d throw out advice, plans, consequences.But I learned something humbling: my presence was more powerful than my problem-solving. What Changed Everything for Us One day, in the middle of a meltdown, I took a breath and asked:“Do you want help fixing this, or do you just want me to listen?”And for the first time, my teen looked relieved. “Just listen,” he said.That moment taught me that most of the time, our kids don’t need solutions, they need safety. 2 Tools I Now Teach All My Moms ✅ The Pause + Breathe Reset When your teen starts spiraling, hit pause. Breathe. Literally feel your feet on the floor. That one second of grounding changes the tone of the whole moment. ✅ Reflective Listening Instead of saying “You can’t act like this,” try:“It looks like today is really hard. I’m here.”It doesn’t condone the behavior, but it creates connection. And that’s where change starts. Real Talk, This Isn’t Easy Regulating yourself when your child is raging isn’t natural.It takes practice. Self-compassion. And tools.But here’s the thing: You can’t lead your child out of chaos if you’re stuck in it too. You Deserve the Tools I Had to Learn the Hard Way I created Path to Empowered Parenting  because I lived through the spiral of doing it all wrong, flailing, and finding my way back to calm. And this month only, I’m offering 20% off tuition  to honor moms who are doing the hard work of showing up. 👉 If you’re ready to break the cycle and reclaim your peace, join us now. 💛 Use code May2025  before May 31🔗 https://forms.gle/TFnXC1QNqnKakP796 Know a mom who needs this? Share this blog. You’re not alone and you’re more powerful than you think.